I love him a lot and want to marry him as soon as possible

Q. I have a cousin,who is lot more than a cousin to me.I love him a lot and want to marry him as soon as possible.I have a very strong feeling that he likes me too,but he is very egoistic.He won`t go beyond his ego to propose me.What do I do?I just can`t stop thinking about him.

Answer: 

We understand how it feels like when you are strongly attracted to somebody and this is what is happening to you as of now. Love has to be no reasons but it has to be liberating. If the need is equal from both the sides, then there are no questions like ego and proposing. You want him very badly but maybe he does not want you as much as you want him. That’s the reason that he has these apprehensions. It is normal for people to have utmost confidence which we call ego but when we need something, we leave behind our egos. 

 

So, if he really needs you, he will put aside his ego and will care for you and respect you. Just observe, in relationships where he needs people and he really cares and gives importance to those people, you can find no ego at all. You will find him respecting and taking care of them. Now, you can ask yourself whether he loves you or not. In case, you find the answer as ‘YES’, then you can go for this relationship. Otherwise, observe your urge and make the right decision. So, I recommend you to give time and then, see how you feel about things in life. 

 

Take Care And God Bless You!! 

Dr Kamal Khurana

Relationship Expert

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Marriage is a relationship where two people are committed to play their roles as partners

Q. hello sir,i m in a relationship with a guy since 2 yrs, we both are 28 yrs old. our families are ready for the marriage but he said that he is not ready right now.i understand his problem that he is not ready to take responsibilities right now. but as i think now we should marry cause i dont have so much time to start my family. now problem is that he is ready for the marriage but he does not pay attention towards me as he did earlier, whenever i talk to him i dont feel that love anymore. earlier we used to talk for hours but now he is not willing to call me ,and whenever i call him his behaviour is very casual. sometimes i feel he is not happy with the idea of getting married right now. i know he loves me but the way he behaves it seems like he is not interested anymore. what should i do ? i talk to him about it but he said everything is all right. i really love him. one thing i want to mention is that for the marriage i make all the efforts. i did not get any support from him.

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Marriage is a relationship where two people are committed to play their roles as partners. This can happen only when there is love equally from both the sides. Whatever the past reality was, it was past. Today’s reality is that he does not love you as much as you do and you have to accept the present reality as it is. He knows you but he does not love you as much as you want. Marriage is a decision that impacts the whole life. So, the decision has to be made very wisely. If you pressurize him, because he has loved you once, you will be creating difficulties for yourself and for him. You need to give him complete freedom to make a decision for himself because that decision impacts you as well. It may be difficult for you to understand this right now, but this is right for you…isn’t it? 

 

God bless you and Good luck!! 

Dr Kamal Khurana

Marriage and Relationship Expert

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Worried about Divorce?

Yahoo Question:   Me and my wife,decided for mutual consent divorce and we appeared in family court ,filed Section 13B,Hindu Marriage Act ,signed deed and first motion passed .Now the second motion will be after six months,where we both have to appear,then divorce decree will be passed by the hon'ble court.

But I'm afraid that my wife if NOT appears for second motion,after six months then what should i do?i dont want to waste my time anymore, Please help.

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Hi !!!

Here, we first have to understand that why do you feel that she will not appear for the divorce? If the divorce is being taken on a mutual ground then why won’t she come? I know that the whole process of divorce has a lot of emotions involved including fear, doubts, apprehensions, and so on. So, it is very important for you and for her also to be aware about these emotions and just accept that they will come. In case you are still doubtful, then communicate with your wife about the concerns that you are feeling.


With our experience of over 10 years in relationship counseling, we have had these learnings from over 3000 people. So we wish you benefit the most out of this wisdom.

Wish you all the best.

God Bless You & take care
Dr Kamal

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I want to controll my husband to any how .my husband always think about his elder brother his wife nd child?

He hasnt care about me .he hadnt give me the support not menttaly ,physically nd not financially.i recently lost my fifth month unborned child after four nd half year.pls help me

Answer by Dr Kamal Khurana:

Hi !!!

I understand your situation and I am with you in this. I know it is hard for you but here you need to reflect upon the reasons as to why doesn’t he support you? And the only way you can get the answer to this question is when you ask your own self about the reasons to it. This will help you get awareness about the gap in your relationship from your end as well as his end due to which the result is lack of support from his end. Also after this, you have to help him also gain awareness about this gap and the reasons attached to it. It is very important that you communicate with him about this feeling and also find possible solutions to resolve it together as a couple. One thing which you need to keep in mind while doing whole of this process is that its not about blaming or controlling each other. It is all about being with each other and living a peaceful and happy marriage together.


With our experience of over 10 years in relationship counselling, we have had these learnings from over 3000 people. So we wish you benefit the most out of this wisdom.

Wish you all the best.

God Bless You & take care
Dr Kamal

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How do i get out of depression?

I am a thirty one year old woman and my husband has been cheating on me for over an year.All through the past one year we have had huge fights and reconciliations but every time he goes back to her .Last year i was even going to a psychiatrist but i gave up midway. Now I Feel emotionally drained.Just can't help feeling sorry for myself when he has dinner with her and i sit at home eating all alone ...

How do i get out of this rut.I feel unwanted and unloved. My confidence has taken a beating and there are days when i just want to snuggle in the bed and never come out .
I know this looks like a rant of a woman who is feeling sorry for herself but i do want to get out ...Please tell me how to get life back to normal again ...thanks in advance.

 

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Hi !!! 

I can understand your situation and know how difficult it must be to cope with all this. But at the same time I am glad that you really want to work to come out of it. I appreciate your will power and determination to come out of these emotions. We need to work on the resistance or the blockage which is not allowing you to be happy and peaceful.

For this, you need to reflect as to what you want out of this relationship now. Because now it has started impacting your emotional and mental well- being. And if you move forward in the same manner then you need to imagine where will you reach in your life.Once this awareness will come then you will be clear as to what path you have to choose which will lead you to be happy in life.

With our experience of over 10 years in relationship counselling, we have had these learnings from over 3000 people. So we wish you benefit the most out of this wisdom.

Wish you all the best.

God Bless You & take care
Kamal

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